Monday, March 02, 2009

Irresponsible Choices

We've all made them and I'm quite sure that most of us live with the consequences of choices, the good, and the bad, but the key words here are "most of us live with the consequences". We don't intentionally cause someone else to pay for them, or add an undo burden on others due to them, do we?

Nadya Suleman unmarried, unemployed, lives with her parents and receives food stamps and other government assistance and is the mother of 14 children.

How did she pay for the IVF treatments that she underwent to give birth to all of these children?

How does she plan to give these children a loving home and pay for all the necessities needed to raise these children when so many families with TWO parents and far fewer children are struggling to do this on a daily basis?

Does she expect donations and reality TV to do it for her?

I truly think she does.

I think the woman needs a through psychiatric evaluation before they allow her to remove her octuplets from the hospital and into her care because I think she needs some major help.

It's wonderful that medical technology has given women who so desperately want to be mothers the chance to do so, but I it's dangerous (for the mothers and the babies) , and against the laws of nature, for human mothers to have litters of babies.

Maybe I'm wrong to feel this way, but I do.

Thoughts about this have been brewing in my mind for weeks now and I just had to let them escape.

18 comments:

Sally said...

The whole situation boggles the mind IMO. That website is unreal; no information other than leave a comment or a donation. What the heck?

The poor, poor children. It's sad to me.

Louise said...

With you 100% I would say more, but I would probably be hunted down and get hate mail. Or my house blown up. But everything you said irritates me (infuriates me) on every level.

Butterfly Gardener said...

I agree with you all the way.

Belle (from Life of a...) said...

I agree

Attila The Mom said...

Definitely with you 100% That woman is nuts.

Loretta said...

I agree too!! I also think the doctor that did this needs to do some explaining!

Andrea (Off Her Cork) said...

This whole situation squicks me out. I also would love to know how she paid for all the IVF treatments and what not but that stuff just isn't cheap!

Did I mention that 14babies squicks me out? I'm with ya, Brenda.

Donna said...

This must be a day for Venting!hahaa...I think I'll do some of my own later...In the meantime, I believe this was a Calculated move to receive "permanant" welfare...The mony she had to do the IVF was won in a prior lawsuit...don't remember what over...
This gives New meaning to "stay-at-home-Mom"......SO...As for ALL of Us? Just put it on OUR tab...
hughugs

Donna said...

The woman is NUTS and I feel sorry for those kids. She redefines the word "selfish".

PEA said...

That woman has changed her story so many times, I don't think she even knows what the truth is anymore! The other day I was told about the web site she's put up asking for donations and it made me sick to my stomach. The sad part is that many people WILL donate to her because they feel sorry for the kids. As you say, she definitely needs help. xoxo

Houston said...

According to the Right to Life movement, fertilized eggs are indeed human beings and therefore to destroy them would have been equivalent to having an abortion. She could have donated the fertilized eggs, but she says she couldn't do that either.

I think her choice to have all of the babies was dangerous to herself and the babies. I'm not a mental health expert, so I can't speak to her state of mind, but I think she was more likely motivated by some irrational mental state than simply a scheme to enrich herself or to manipulate the welfare system.

Now that we've all agreed that she's disturbed and has done a very irrational thing, what is our moral responsibility? Do we ignore the 8 premature babies because we're angry with the mother for making such a stupid choice?

I think we need to remember to be compassionate towards her 14 children. They did not choose this situation. I may not like it, but I'd rather she get food stamps than to see her children deprived of proper nutrition. As for the millions the delivery and care of the babies is costing, Kaiser needs to eat the bill. They sure were eager to be in the spotlight before the story turned ugly.

God bless the grandparents who have been dumped on by this dysfunctional daughter with her psychological disorder involving pregnancy and babies. May God give them strength and good health. We need to give all 17 of them our good thoughts and prayers.

We don't pray for people so much because they deserve it. We pray for them because they need help that is beyond our ability to give.

Brenda said...

I do worry about those children and pray that they'll grow up happy and healthy. The Momma however, that broad is a fruitcake, plain and simple. She needs some major help in the mental department.

Jeanette said...

I think she did it for the attention and the money she thought/thinks she will be able to make off of these children. I agree that the children's welfare must come first so the state has to make sure they are fed and well cared for..but I'm sure CPS will be keeping a close eye on them.

Cindra said...

Houston, you have a good point... and I agree the Doctor should eat the bills. He certainly got his 15 minutes of fame.

I feel bad for those children. They have been put in a side show type of situation. I know many large families that function quite well, but they include both parents and a good plan of action before the children were born.

jazzi said...

You know, before I knew the whole story, I was okay with the fact that she went ahead with having all the babies. I think that with IVF, you have so many eggs fertilized, and for me, to have an egg fertilized and not implant it would be tantamount to not giving that child life. I was good with implanting the eggs and letting God decide which ones made it and which ones didn't. And if all 8 made it, well then...
But then I found out the rest of the story. That she wasn't a parent desperate to have a child, because she had 6 more at home already! And no way to support the kids she had, much less the ones on the way. My thoughts changed FAST.
I don't think this mom has it together enough to handle 14 children alone within this age range. It's simply not physically possible.

Debbie said...

I agree with you too. The world agrees with you. The woman needs mental help. I haven't visited the website yet. Bill O'Reilly crucifies her every night just about. "He's all over it".

Geesh...no news surprises me any more.

Maria said...

Unbelievable! Could a doctor not REFUSE to artificially fertilize a woman who has already given birth to 6 children?
Or don't doctors usually have patient histories? And how can a poor person like that woman afford IVF treatments?
What a strange story, I can't believe it's true!
I'd like to know to whom the homepage really belongs. I can't believe this story. What do you think?

Jondlar said...

www.thenadyasulemanfamily.com was registered on 9 Feb 2009 for next 10 years (until 2019). The domain name was registered through Network Solutions Inc. but the owner has opted to hide his/her contact information.