Wednesday, July 21, 2010

CHARACTERISTICS of the NARCISSIST

Do you know someone with these characteristics? If you do, I feel for you cause they can often make your life a living hell.

Certain characteristics appear with stunning regularity among narcissists. Since narcissism is on a continuum, some will have more than others.

1. Self-centered. His/her needs are paramount.
2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.
3. Unreliable, undependable.
4. Does not care about the consequences of his/her actions.
5. Projects faults on to others. High
blaming behavior; never his/her fault.
6. Little if any conscience.
7. Pretends concern but is really Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.
8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.
9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.
10. People are to be manipulated for his/her needs.
11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to his gain at other’s expense. If trapped, keeps
talking, changes the subject or gets angry.
12. Pathological lying.
13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.
14. No real values. Mostly situational.
15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.
16. Angry, mercurial, moods.
17. Uses sex to control
18. Does not share true ideas, feelings, emotions.
19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.
20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.
21. Secret life. Hides , friends, activities.
22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.
23. Moody - switches from nice guy/girl to anger without much provocation.
24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.
25. Seldom expresses appreciation.
26. Grandiose. Convinced he/she knows more than others and is correct in all he does.
27. Lacks ability to see how he/she comes across to others. Defensive when confronted with his/her behavior. Never his/her fault.
28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.
29. He/she breaks spirits to keep them dependent.
30. Highly contradictory.
31.
Convincing. Must convince people to side with him/her
32.
Hides his/her real self. Always “on”
33.
Kind only if he's/she's getting from you what he/she wants.
34.
He/she has to win.
35.
Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.
36.
Unilateral condition of, "I'm OK and justified so I don't need to hear your position or ideas".
37.
Always feels misunderstood.
38. You can often feel miserable with this person because they drain you.
39.
Does not listen because he/she does not care.
40. It's always about his/her feelings, noone else's.
41.
Is not really interested in problem-solving.. wants the sympathy.
42.
Very good at reading people, so he/she can manipulate them.



16 comments:

Diane at Crafty Passions said...

Phew quite the list.... thankfully I don't know anyone like that.
I would run in the other direction !
Diane

bermudabluez said...

I do know someone exactly like that.

Sally said...

I don't know anyone who has all of those traits, but one who has enough that nearly everyone in his life hit the road. Sad, but true.

Janice said...

Definately know a few with some of those traits and they can make everyone around them miserable.

SOUL said...

all i wanna know is where did you meet my mother ? :O

(and-- what possessed you to post this?)

hugs

Donna said...

Lolol...I know someone with All these traits...but you'd delete my comment so I'll be good...Hahaaaa
hughugs

Jeanette said...

My husband used to work with someone who had 90% of those traits. It was miserable working with him.

Brenda said...

The only comments I would delete would be Spam. I don't think I've ever deleted a comment as far as I remember.

SOUL said...

how bout mine? i really wanna know-- someone screwin with your head? your heart? lemmee at em !

Donna said...

I'm still not 'gonna tell you...you'd pull my fingernails out or Worse...you'd 'sic Soul on me...HAhahahaa.....I think she could take meh!!!
hughugs

Anonymous said...

Acckkk! It's my boss!

Anonymous said...

Recently was told by a professional counselor that my hubby is a narcissist. He has several of those characteristics, but not all. I've lived with it for 31 years. It HURTS!

dancingmatilda365 said...

oh yes my hubby....and i totally fell for it because i'm so nice lol.

dancingmatilda365 said...

where did you get that list btw?

JunieRose2005 said...

I happen to know someone who has just about ALL those traits- a close friend! I need to make some changes...


Junie

ellasmom said...

My daughter's father exhibits All of these traits!! I thank God everyday that I escaped "relatively" unharmed, for my daughter's safety and my own.